There really is no excuse for child abuse. No abuser has a valid reason for abusing a child. Never. Yet it happens all around us and all around the word every day. It is very unlikely you do not know someone personally affected by this – even if you do not realise it.
Today in London a few hundred people joined and marched and spoke their truth, sentances of pain and stories of recovery and poems of wonder. There is no excuse for child abuse. Never.
How is this horror going to stop? Society has to change. That was a consensus I feel. Knowledge and wisdom have to be gathered and adult survivors must take an ownership role of the whole agenda from education to healthcare.
It was good to be out with a crowd, though I was left in a lot of pain and still am. The crowd and the speakers were inspiring and noisy. A very sweet woman and her daughter left very early after the march as the child was bored , quite understandably. I really liked this lady. She had eyes that wowed me and a smile and open face that drew me in – and instantly I knew she was someone to be trusted.
Later I met a very interesting activist Minty Challis who had a lot to say about the infamous MK-Ultra program and it’s British counterpart.
The crowd thinned as the afternoon wore on and I also left before the end as I was more than exhausted. I’m very glad I went. As a survivor of sexual abuse it was a very empowering event. Families and individuals and groups came together and made one loud voice.
Today from 1pm In London an annual rally and march will take place combining the forces of Survivors of abuse and Child action groups. The biggest two problems in this area are “traumatic forgetting” which make accurate statistics difficult and the utterly dominant force of denial in society – which stands as a force against real change. To end denial we must achieve:
RECOGNITION OF PREVELANCE OF ABUSE: 30 – 40% of ADULTS ABUSED AS CHILDREN. THE COST TO SOCIETY IS IN WASTED LIVES AND BILLIONS OF POUNDS.
RECOGNITION THAT ABUSE OCCURS MAINLY IN THE HOME AND WITH TRUSTED CARERS.
END “STRANGER DANGER” CAMPAIGNS/DENIAL – THE DANGER IS RARELY FROM STRANGERS YET MILLIONS ARE WASTED ON THESE CAMPAIGNS.
END DEMONISATION OF THE INTERNET – THE INTERNET HAS DONE MORE GOOD FOR ADULT SURVIVORS THAN GOVERNMENT HAS – IT HAS PROVIDED US SHARED RESOURCES AND SUPPORT AND ALLOWED US TO BECOME CONNECTED – AND THEREFORE A FORCE FOR CHANGE.
RECOGNITION THAT ABUSE IS BOTH PSYCHOLOGICALLY AND PHYSICALLY DAMAGING – THE PHYSICAL CONSEQUENCES ARE UNDER RESEARCHED AND DENIED. SOMATISATION DISORDERS DO NOT EXIST – UNTREATED INJURIES SUSTAINED IN CHILDHOOD RAPE AND BATTERY CAUSE REAL PHYSICAL DAMAGE WHICH REMAINS UNTREATED – WHILST UNDER-EDUCATED DOCTORS BLINDLY BLAME THE PATIENTS “PSYCHOLOGY”.
MORE RESEARCH INTO CYCLES OF ABUSE AND EARLY INTERVENTION IN PROBLEM FAMILIES.
A NATIONWIDE ENQUIRY INTO ORGANISED PAEDOPHILIA AND THE LINKS WITH FREEMASONRY AND THE JUSTICE SYSTEM: THIS SEEMS TO BE WHY MANY ABUSERS DO NOT GET PUNISHED.
Research indicates the majority of prostitutes, prisoners and hard drug addicts were abused as children – yet we demonise and ostracise these victims, imprison them and criminalise them – because they are trying to cope with horrors in their minds with no effective understanding of the aetiology of their problems and no effective treatment regime that deals with addiction behaviours and the underlying psychological distress.
“Life without parole plus four years”. The sentance handed down to Sara Kruzan at age 16 for killing the man who groomed her from age 11, raped her at 13 and then set her to work 12 hour shifts on the street as a prostitute for the next three years.
America: wake up! This child was not a criminal – she saved other girls from a life of forced prostitution. Your laws seem to be based on original sin. Where is the compassion?